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Discussions - Nontraditional Sex - View Post - Archive
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7/10/2008 3:52:19 PM
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GeorgeSmiley |
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Interesting article, actually
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I thought three paragraphs in the middle spoke to another discussion on the boards here about the supposed prevalence of traumatic childhoods among BDSM participants:
[Psychologist Pamela] Stephenson Connolly recently carried out a study of 132 BDSM participants to try to find out whether there was more prevalence of clinical disorders, such as depression, anxiety or psychological sadomasochism among those who practised BDSM. "The answer I found was no," she says. "Most of the assumptions that my profession has made about people who participate in BDSM is that there must be something wrong with them, but I didn't find that at all. What I did find is that the credo in the BDSM movement - and I'm not talking about people who don't know what they are doing - is 'safe, sane and consensual'. People would discuss what was about to occur, and talk about their limitations. I discovered tremendous detail in how it is played and anyone who doesn't obey the rules is kicked out of the community and nobody will play with them again. People are very anxious to ensure that consent takes place."
Psychologist David Mirich and sex therapist Neil Cannon have been conducting a major study into sadomasochism in the US, and believe that BDSM behaviours are much more common than is popularly thought. As Cannon says, "there are many people who have used a silk scarf to tie up someone's hands, or used a feather to tickle someone, or pulled their partner's hair - you see references on TV and in magazines to 'rough sex', but I don't think that the people involved see themselves as participating in anything that could be called sadomasochistic". The reason that we don't hear more about this, they say, is that "even with a great friend or a psychologist, people are very hesitant to talk about their inner sexual world".
Mirich has studied about 220 BDSMers and says that he "was fascinated by this historical and popular assumption that these individuals were traumatised in some form or fashion in their early childhood ... What I found was that most of them would tell me that, no, they were pretty much in an idyllic family situation as a child, that there was no sexual and physical abuse - in fact, there was no spanking."
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